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Field Guide · Money Talk

What do I do when they say “you’re too expensive”?

You slow down and run the sequence instead of defending the number. “You're too expensive” is the start of a documented process — agree first, find out what their number is and what it's based on, confirm the project and company are right, diagnose whether it's the total or the monthly picture, isolate it as the only remaining issue, and only then work it. The reps who lose this moment lose it in the first ten seconds, by arguing or by discounting.

The short answer

The sequence, in order

  1. Don't get defensive. Defending the investment tells them the number is as shaky as they feared.
  2. Agree. It's a significant investment — saying so takes nothing and earns the room to work.
  3. Find their number. What did they have in mind — and just as important, what is it based on? A neighbor's different project and a real competing scope are different conversations.
  4. Confirm the foundation. Is it the right project, the right company, the right solution — with the investment as the only open question? If something else is broken, money work is premature.
  5. Diagnose total vs. monthly. The fork decides the cure — value work or structure work.
  6. Isolate. If the investment were handled, is everything else a yes? Isolation before movement, always.
  7. Work the gap in order. Scope and structure first — the closing tools designed for the money moment come after, not instead.

How it runs

What the sequence protects

Every step exists because its shortcut fails: discounting before isolating buys a smaller sale that still dies on the hidden second objection; arguing the value insults the homeowner's judgment; skipping their number's basis means negotiating against a figure you don't understand. And running under all of it is the system's commitment doctrine — no discount, rebate, or incentive is put on the table before a commitment exists, because an incentive offered to an uncommitted homeowner doesn't close anything; it just reprices your work downward for free. The full playbook is the deep page; this guide is the order of operations.

Go deeper

Where the full treatment lives

Run the presentation before the porch

Spar's rounds put a homeowner across the table while you present — graded against the system. Round 1 is free; the full camp is $29/month. Spar before you knock.